Saturday, September 24, 2011

I've talked about Elizabeth Gilbert quite a bit in my previous posts, so by now, you must have a fair idea how much I love her writing.

'The problem, simply put, is that we cannot choose everything simultaneously. So we live in danger of becoming paralyzed by indecision, terrified that every choice might be the wrong choice. Equally disquieting are the times when we do make a choice, only to later feel as though we have murdered some other aspect of our being by settling on one single concrete decision. By choosing Door Number Three, we fear we have killed off a different- but equally critical- piece of our soul that could only have been made manifest by walking through Door Number One or Door Number Two.
The philosopher Odo Marquard has noted a correlation in the German language between the word zwei, which means "two", and the word zweifel, which means "doubt"- suggesting that two of anything brings the automatic possibility of uncertainty to our lives. Now imagine a life in which every day a person is presented with not two or even three but dozens of choices, even with all its advantages, a neurosis- generating machine of the highest order. In a world of such abundant possibility, many of us simply go limp from indecision. Or we derail our life's journey again and again, backing up to try the doors we neglected on the first round, desperate to get it right this time. Or we become compulsive comparers- always measuring our lives against some other person's life, secretly wondering if we should have taken her path instead. '

-Committed (all you married/soon to be married folk must read it).

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